Sat 10 Mar 2007
A relationship is an important part in a person’s life, but it can be affected by many external factors. One of these hazardous factors is finance.
Many relationships find themselves at the mercy of life’s worst enemy, money. It is clear to see why personal finances can have the power to erode any relationship. When our finances become organized, we often become slaves of our own debt.
This causes an enormous amount of stress and sometimes depression. Finances can make a couple experience a sense of disconnection and anxiety, thereby replacing affection with constant screaming or yelling or just plain animosity towards each other.
Unorganized finances can also make people edgy, as they sit and plague the sub-conscious, making it hard to enjoy the pleasures of being together. The best thing a couple can do to improve the connection in their relationship is to tackle personal finances together. This means to help each other through the dark tunnel that debt or bankruptcy can create.
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Setting and being realistic about future goals is the first step. You need to know what it is that you aim for with your finances. If not then, you should consider a visit to your local bank. Talk to a bank advisor; they are bound to help you in some way or another.
Budgeting, budgeting, budgeting–this word cannot be stressed enough. You have to see your finances as a business and the only way they will work for you is if you work on them.
Just because you have two separate finances doesn’t mean that you can’t help each other out. While the main responsibility of your personal finances falls on your shoulders, it won’t kill you to help each other learn to practically handle and manage your finances jointly.
That is what a relationship is about: working as a team. Work hard to attain good financial standing and you will both reap the rewards.
March 10th, 2007 at 11:25 am
This is a two way road…one person or the other trying to please the other will surely fail. Both must respect each other, find common ground, and like you said…”work together”.
March 10th, 2007 at 1:52 pm
Thanks Bryan. You are right, its a two way traffic. I liked the way you put it, respect each other and find common ground.
Cheers.
March 10th, 2007 at 8:20 pm
Great post Robin! totally agree with you and Bryan!
“Setting and being realistic about future goals is the first step.” i like this part especially, it is so true, yet many people tend to forget that! be realistic, set your goals, and move towards it!
great work Robin! keep it up!